Stay Out Of My Way!

atlasThere are times when i catch myself trying to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. The balancing act of  touring road musician, father, and a husband becomes a bit arduous. Struggling to keep everybody happy, i quickly lose sight of my own happiness.
i want to fix everybody and everything, yet i lay in a pile of a thousand jagged pieces. i beat myself up for falling short of my desires and before long everything seems all screwed up.
i constantly have to remind myself to “Stay out of my way!!”
i can screw myself up! i can convince myself that i’m a failure, that i’m weak, no good, fat, ugly, you name it, if i give them enough time and attention those negative thoughts soon become me. And that is not me, and that is not how God wants me to be. Okay Dr. Seuss.  
So you know what i do? i thought you’d never ask. Now, it’s not easy, and it does take work but with some time and conscious effort you’ll see what i’m talking about.
i try to push those negative thoughts out of my mind with good thoughts. The moment they start to creep into your my head i shove them out with thinking about all the positive things in my life, or by repeating a simple positive phrase over and over until my negative thoughts disappear. Sometimes it takes awhile but i have found that if i can turn my focus to the positive instead of the negative things begin to change.

My pastor, the late David Foster, used to always say, “we are messy, screwed up people and hurt people hurt people.” That’s the truth, we are messy and when we are at our lowest and most hurt is when we say or do things that hurt the ones that love us the most. Don’t get in your way, don’t let yourself fill your head with negativity. You are a snowflake, a fingerprint, created in the image of God, there is no one like you on this entire planet. You are special, a ray of golden light shining through the clouds. Believe in yourself and stop trying to fix everything. Remember, to be a fixer of things you must first be fixed.
Love!

Deano

Back at it!!

IMG_4192Batteries charged and back at it! As the gig in Las Vegas winds down, March 20th-21st and April 11th-12th being our last two weekends, we are getting amped up for the new Sundown Heaven Town Tour.  A whole bunch of  new songs and all the great old ones you all know and love. So looking forward to sleeping in my bunk.

i always get asked, “do you ever get tired of being on the road?” And my honest answer is, “yes.” Somedays being on a four week run, on 40ft of bus, rolling down the highways and byways, can be taxing, especially the older i get. i mean, i’ve always felt totally blessed and i  so love my job but i’m also a daddy and a husband and being out on the road makes it tough to fill those tanks. Sure, technology has made it easier to stay in touch what with Skype and facetime and everything, but the hugs and kisses, the personal touches of a loved one are crutial to a fully rounded happy being. i usually say it’s not the road i get tired of it’s the 22 1/2 hours of time i gotta kill til i get to do what i love that wear me out. But this is my life, it’s what i know and definatly what i love and i will do it as long as i’m physically capable.

So what’s with people using iPads for cameras. i know they have pretty good cameras on them but from one friend to another you look silly holding that big thing in front of your face. There was one guy this weekend at the Venetian taking pictures with his ipad and all you could make out from the stage was fingers, arms, and shoulders. He had a black square for a face. We see you people and we love seeing your happy, smiling faces. Step away from the pad, get you a good little point and shoot and let your smiles shine.

Only you can make a bad day good. Smile, love, and be happy.

Peace

Springing Forward Sucks!

Sorry, i know i sound 12 but really ?? i get it, the whole seasonal, daylight hours and blah, blah, blah! All i know is we finished lastnight at around 11:00 pm and like a good little boy i was in my room at 11:15. Even after indulging in a small caesar salad and a couple pieces of dark chocolate…85% cacao….mmm, But anyway, i had told myself i would be in bed by 12:oo am. i packed the rest of my things, set up my clothes for the early morning and was between the sheets by 12:45 am; i love it when a bad plan comes together. But apparently at 2:00 am we lost an hour so that made my 4:45 am alarm that much more dreadful. Why 2:00 am? Why not 12:00 pm, high noon…bam! now it’s 11:00 am. Or in this case, bam! now it’s 1:00 pm, not quite the shock. i did wake up around 3:30 and i called the front desk and asked “what is the correct, current time?” Their answer  comfirmed our assumptions to the question of the evening, “will the iPhone recognize the time change?” it did, and i made my 5:45 am  call time with minutes to spare. i guess they aren’t called smart phones for nothing huh?

Sleep well Crazy World, i know i will.

Peace

What is a productive day?

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Had an exceptional day here in Vegas. After two great shows last night we had a little dinner, i usually don’t eat before a show, something about playing for your food still resonates with me. i came back to my suite and watched another episode of Dexter…i hate you Netflix.

But today! today was fantastic. i, along with a few other parent volunteers, publish our elementary school’s yearbook and today was a very productive day. i’ve become quite the digital scrapbooker. But i love it! i love being involved with our kid’s school. Oh, a quick shout out to my dear friend Charles Robinson you can find out more about him at https://www.TheRedRoad.org  but he came to our elementary school and participated in our Family Reading Night and read some stories to the students. The kids really dug it! But Being involved when i’m able is huge to me and i know it impacts the kids. Ya only get to do somethings once.

But i was also able to great workout in with my buddies Denny and Adam. We did IMG_4174these things called “Man Makers” sonofa… should be called “Man Breakers”. Weight training and cardio in one exercise. Had us gasping like K2 climbers. i love the feeling after a workout…pumped-up, satisfied, accomplished.

i got a little reading in. i try to do some everyday. Somedays i succeed, sometimes i fail but it’s on my list. i’m reading Emmet Fox’s The Sermon on the Mount, a little spiritual feeding. i’m really digging this book. It’s a little bit tougher read than i usually fall into but it does reference the Bible and that’s always been a tough read with all the “thys” and “begets” and “untos” and so on but i’m getting it! Filling!

And in a couple hours i’m gonna throw my musicial/performer/creative side a big fat T-bone. I can’t wait.

i Just feel like i could have sat in my room all day and buried myself in the yearbook responsibilities i have looming, sure i could have knocked out a lot but then my other hungers are left unnourished. Taking the time and making those little things important enough for you to give your precious minutes and seconds to is huge.

So sitting behind a screen 12 hours a day does not a productive day make in my book. Feed the rest of you, you’ll be happy you did.

Peace

 

Does this sound strange to you?

Vegas 2014

A guy born and raised in a small border town in South Texas, on stage with one of the biggest country music singers in country music history.

We just finished the first show of our two shows here on Friday night at the Venetian and as I do every night about this time I get that feeling of “Wholly Shit!, I just played the Venetian in Vegas… on stage with Tim and Faith.” As cliché as it may sound, it is the honest truth, it still blows my mind. I am truly blessed and I love doing what I do.

We’ve just been given our 20 minute call, number two just around the corner…wait a minute, that… doesn’t… really… sou…aww never mind,  Anyway, I say let there be ROCK!! and I wish upon everybody  the courage to chase down that dream and achieve it.

Dream big, never settle, and never stop.