Stay Out Of My Way!
There are times when i catch myself trying to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. The balancing act of touring road musician, father, and a husband becomes a bit arduous. Struggling to keep everybody happy, i quickly lose sight of my own happiness.
i want to fix everybody and everything, yet i lay in a pile of a thousand jagged pieces. i beat myself up for falling short of my desires and before long everything seems all screwed up.
i constantly have to remind myself to “Stay out of my way!!”
i can screw myself up! i can convince myself that i’m a failure, that i’m weak, no good, fat, ugly, you name it, if i give them enough time and attention those negative thoughts soon become me. And that is not me, and that is not how God wants me to be. Okay Dr. Seuss.
So you know what i do? i thought you’d never ask. Now, it’s not easy, and it does take work but with some time and conscious effort you’ll see what i’m talking about.
i try to push those negative thoughts out of my mind with good thoughts. The moment they start to creep into your my head i shove them out with thinking about all the positive things in my life, or by repeating a simple positive phrase over and over until my negative thoughts disappear. Sometimes it takes awhile but i have found that if i can turn my focus to the positive instead of the negative things begin to change.
My pastor, the late David Foster, used to always say, “we are messy, screwed up people and hurt people hurt people.” That’s the truth, we are messy and when we are at our lowest and most hurt is when we say or do things that hurt the ones that love us the most. Don’t get in your way, don’t let yourself fill your head with negativity. You are a snowflake, a fingerprint, created in the image of God, there is no one like you on this entire planet. You are special, a ray of golden light shining through the clouds. Believe in yourself and stop trying to fix everything. Remember, to be a fixer of things you must first be fixed.
Love!
Deano
Thanks for sharing this Deano. There are days, such as today, that this really hits home, especially being a single mom. Have to remember to keep things in perspective, and not always putting others first or feeling guilty when doing something for yourself instead. Sometimes a gentle reminder is needed to focus on the positives in our lives. I am truly blessed in so many ways. Enjoy your weekend and see you all in Burgettstown. I appreciate all your sacrifices in order to bring us fans joy and happiness by sharing your talents with us, and by seeing all the photos and updates about life on the road that you post. It is interesting to see things from your perspective. Take care 🙂
Oh, how I appreciate your words here. What you have said here is so important for all of us to remember. Proverbs 23:7 tells us that we become what we think. After just recently going through an unwanted divorce after 23 years of marriage, indeed, I have also come to learn that where the mind goes, the man follows. It is definitely a battlefield of the mind, but we can win that battle with God on our side.
Much love to you, your wife and family and thanks for this post.
Take care of you!!!! I understand how you feel… Love you lots! See ya in Indy~
Words of wisdom Deano… I have spent 5 years trying to “fix” my Mom’s health issues. One after the other. It has been a long difficult road. The last 3 months have brought me to the realization that I can’t “fix” the inevitable. No matter how hard I try…there’s only so much that can be done. I have had to learn to let go. Mom is home now on hospice. The days are uncertain. I’m not even going to try to prepare myself…that would be pointless…for no amount of preparation can truly make a person ready to lose their very breath, the sun that lights the darkest of days, Their best friend. Not sure how I will react or how life will change…but I know it will. My greatest comfort is the last 5 years we spent chasing you guys and Tim all over and all of the amazing experiences we have had. That brings me great peace and joy. God Bless….be safe. Janice